来谈谈大家对远距离恋爱的看法

如题。。。
请各位分享一下自己的想法和经验。。::zt20::

也希望各位大哥大姐分享如何保持这种relationship.

p/s:不好意思，我华语不太好，请多多包涵。

90%注定失败 很难保持  
如果你真的想变成那10%，不光是你自己，对方也要跟你一样，付出好多好多
很累很可怜

基本来讲比较难。。。维持到2年是极限。。。。

回复 2# soju


agree. most time, it won't work.
speaking from personal experience, I think there are mainly two reasons:
1> it's difficult to keep the intimacy. it's an essential part of the relationship. with two people seperated by the ocean, spending couple months top a year. though skype every night, messaging every hour may help out a bit in the first couple month. it's difficult to keep the heat up in long run.
2> more importantly, people change. while staying in the same city, two people share the same environment and they have a better chance to understand and coordinate each other's changes in work, life, and essentially the mentality, the opinions. let's face it, we can bearly control the external environment which is going to shape our future. so, when living in two totally different country, or even city, affected by a difference external environment, it becomes extrondinary difficult to keep the two tracks parallel to each other over time. one may outgrow the other.  then there comes the intersaction, where you will need to make a call. going forward, or turning sideway.

lots and lots of communication and efforts are required from both parties.
Good luck.

异地必死

回复 4# vickyinsydney

真佩服以前当Skype啊，MSN和Email都还没发明的时代，相隔两地的情侣们还可以靠写信来维持关系。
感情看来是和时代的迁变还有科技的发达是相反的。当时代越进步，科技越发达，感情就比较容易变质，更脆弱。
唉。。。突然觉得自己变老了。呵呵。。。::zt28::

灰常灰常难。。。

回复 6# 灰儿


也不会咯。
这些新的东东，应该是更方便拉近距离吧。天涯若比邻咯。
以前都长途电话啊，煲粥啊。但是，那时应该也更单纯一点。
when there's only one phone, one answering machine, one cassette tape.

不过我身边还真有成的。我认识个男的，和一女网友电话联系8个月。结果见面了，等他回来，那女的说她怀孕了。为了负责，可能要结婚了。这是发生在澳洲人身上的事，真实的。。

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